Some of the colours have to be used more than once. In , three years after that night and almost ten years after our first date, I asked her to marry me and she said yes. The key to getting your ex back after being apart for years is to make sure that when you contact her, you are now ready to give her the attraction experience she always wanted from you. The excuse I got after all of this was that they were considering getting back together. After a few years on and off the last year solid everything has been going great with my girlfriend until recently when she told me she needs time to "step back and think, be independent etc" I realised things moved too quickly and we settled into too much of a routine where we both felt trapped. During which you will have to rectify your flaws and learn about attraction techniques to attract her again.